It All Begins With You
As human beings it is natural to not want to be alone. In our society we often search for things to fulfill us and complete us. These things might be the person of our dreams, the ideal home, or the perfect wardrobe.
What often happens when you can‘t fulfill what you see as the major voids in your life is that you fill these gaps with stuff. Stuff can be physical objects, such as things you buy that you don‘t really need. Or it can be activities you do to blunt your true feelings, such as drinking, casual sex, too much television, etc. Does this sound familiar?
How to Fill the Void
The answer to feeling fulfilled—killing the emptiness that you may try to fill with things that are not always good for you—is love. First is loving yourself, first and foremost. Next is not seeking validation from others, knowing that you are OK. And finally, believing that you are a good person deserving of love.
These things will make sure you don‘t have to seek that validation or approval from anyone. You will start to attract healthy fulfilled people who aren’t looking to fill a void either.
Love Yourself First
If you don‘t truly love yourself you will suffer two serious consequences.
First is a feeling of not getting what you need from your man / relationship. Second is driving away your partner / damaging your relationship. If you want to drive away a good person it‘s quite simple: just be needy.
Loving yourself requires effort and focus. There are things you will have to forgive yourself for. You will need to go through a process to appreciate your positives and leave a lot of baggage at the door. Relationship coaches can help you with this process.
BOTTOM LINE: You can‘t ask someone else to love what you don‘t love yourself (YOU!)
Contact us, for more information about how a Relationship Coach can help you on this journey.